If you are struggling, perhaps working hard to feel better, or have a concern about living a life free of regrets, these 40 thoughts on regrets are for you, and you, and me…
Afterall, you are not alone with your struggles. There are many among us sharing that part of life’s less desirable side.
But there is a bottom line to this, which is, it’s never too late to take a step in the right direction. Things do change, it’s never too late to become the person you are capable of being! Don’t make it a regret to think back 40 years from now, pondering then “What if I had only…”.
Marc and Angel are authors – they appear to understand “regrets”. Their article “40 Regrets You Don’t Want to Have in 40 Years” will have you looking at your life before you get to item 5…
It starts like this:
“This morning, like he has every morning for the last decade, my 86-year-old grandfather picked a fresh wild flower on his morning walk and took it to my grandmother. This morning I decided to go with him to see her. And as he placed the flower on her gravestone, he looked at me and said, “I just wish I had picked her a fresh flower every morning when she was alive. She would have loved that.”
As you can imagine, his words touched a nerve in me. I almost immediately started thinking about everything and everyone I care about, and what I don’t want to regret in 40 years when I’m on the cusp of my 80’s. It almost felt like every aspect of my life was flashing before my eyes. And as soon as I got home, I started jotting down everything that had come to mind. When I was done, I read the list to Angel. She nodded her head all the way through to the end, and then said, “I couldn’t agree more. I don’t think anyone wants to regret any of those things when they’re older.” Perhaps you will also agree…”
About these 40 regrets… I wasn’t going to list them, but it would be hardhearted of me to skip them given the nature of my post. Naturally though, if you skip reading the explanation from their article that goes with each one, the points made might be slighted, so by all means, take a few moments in preparation of changing your life by reading all 40 in detail. You won’t regret it!
1) Spending too little time with the right people.
2) Not making your loved ones smile more often.
3) Not saying what you need to say.
4) Constantly comparing yourself to everyone else.
5) Ignoring your intuition for too long.
6) Not taking action on meaningful goals.
7) Letting others talk you out of your dreams.
8) Vivid memories of wasted time.
9) Collecting more excuses than you can count.
10) Waiting, and waiting, and waiting until you’re ready.
11) Not putting in enough effort.
12) Letting solvable problems stop you.
13) Not taking on enough risk.
14) Settling for less than you are capable of.
15) Putting your own needs and happiness on the back burner.
16) Letting impatience govern your decisions and actions.
17) Giving up too soon.
18) Letting someone walk all over you, ad infinitum.
19) Not helping others when you were able.
20) Ignoring your roots and those who have supported you.
21) Not appreciating what you have when you have it.
22) Letting your health go.
23) Years of struggling to find happiness outside yourself.
24) Letting too many plans blind you from the beauty of now.
25) Being too narrow-minded to see the opportunities given to you.
26) The limitations you put on yourself.
27) Letting negativity get the best of you.
28) Never admitting and growing beyond your mistakes.
29) Not accepting responsibility for life changes you need to make.
30) Seeking too much validation from others.
31) Impressing the wrong people.
32) Time spent on drama and needless arguments.
33) Letting a grudge hurt your happiness.
34) Endlessly worrying about things.
35) Forcing what’s not meant to be.
36) Getting stuck in the trap of consumerism.
37) Never traveling when you had the chance.
38) Not choosing to laugh at life more often.
39) Resisting change instead of rolling with it.
40) Talking the talk, but never walking the walk.
Concentrate on one, or concentrate on a dozen, but if it strikes a nerve, then that’s where to start!
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